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Coffee With: Brian Hurlock

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  • Apr 29
  • 7 min read

On coaching Nykesha Sales, fighting cancer, and what to order at George's

 

By Carl Wiser

Staff Writer

 

Brian Hurlock at The Blue House Bagel Co. & Cafe. “I always was a positive person, whether I was coaching or officiating or being in the restaurant.”
Brian Hurlock at The Blue House Bagel Co. & Cafe. “I always was a positive person, whether I was coaching or officiating or being in the restaurant.”

When I met Brian Hurlock he was refereeing a 4th-grade rec league basketball game between Canton and Burlington. He would high five a kid if he made a good play; when he called a foul, he told the kid why. He kept it lively, instructional and fun ("Great shot! Must be that well water in Burlington."). After the game, I noticed he had a handicapped placard on his car. "I have stage four lung cancer," he told me. "But it's OK."

 

Hurlock, a member of the Connecticut Women's Basketball Hall Of Fame, started coaching soon after graduating from Farmington High School in 1980, where he had an undistinguished basketball career. "I was a 'minute' player," he says. "I used to say to coach John Grocki, 'Coach, can I go in?' He'd say, 'In a minute.'"

 

His first coaching job was at Lewis Mills, where he made $550 for the season as coach of the JV softball team. There, he worked with varsity coach Eileen Crompton, who won state championships in 1985 and 1989. She and longtime Mills volleyball coach Linda Hamm became mentors. "They taught me how to coach girls by making sure they are bringing fun into it but also pushing them to be good," Hurlock says.

 

His next stop was Terryville in 1988, coaching the girls' varsity basketball team. "They were atrocious," he says. "My first year, we were 1-19. Second year, we were 12-10. I was there for two years. A teacher in the system wanted the job and had priority over me."

 

He moved on to East Windsor, Brookfield, Bloomfield and Wolcott Tech, building a reputation along the way for turning teams around. Before Brian arrived, Wolcott Tech had a run of over 200 consecutive losses, but in 2012 he took them to the state tournament (a big piece of that puzzle was getting them moved to a different league where they were more competitive).

 

The secret to his success: "They knew I cared, so they worked hard for me." Well, that and a lot of hard work. His teams put in the effort at practice.

 

"We would run with bricks," he says. "I was tough because we knew that we were playing good teams. Most of the teams I took over were behind a lot of the other teams."

 

 

Nykesha Sales

At Bloomfield, Hurlock coached Nykesha Sales her last two seasons before she starred at UConn. "With Nykesha it was like having another coach on the floor," he says.

 

Sales was heavily recruited; Stanford coach Tara Vanderveer came to see her, and of course, UConn coach Geno Auriemma did as well. "Geno said, 'I'm so happy that you play man defense. I don't like recruiting when you see coaches playing zone.'"

 

Surprisingly, Bloomfield didn't win any championships those two years with Sales. "There's only so much Nykesha can do if there's five good players on the other team," Hurlock says. 

 

 

Geno Auriemma

 Auriemma is a hero to Hurlock. They crossed paths not only when Geno was recruiting Sales, but when Brian was coaching at East Windsor. "Geno let me bring the kids to watch a UConn practice," he says. "The kids would go on the main court, get autographs. It was wonderful."

 

"He coached Maya Moore like he coached everybody else," he adds. "I think he's the best out there. He has great assistants, but he knows how to recruit. The main thing is, he recruits people that he knows are going to fit in to his program.

 

"He shows the kids that during a game he cares about them, and he'll tell them if they're not doing well. Like myself, he won't sugarcoat it. He's getting his naysayers out there now, but I still think he's the best in the business. And he's such a big believer, like I am, in family. Personal family, but our teams are also like family."

 

Brian had a WWGD (What Would Geno Do) moment when he was coaching at East Windsor. A player showed up late for practice because she got Burger King, so he had her eat it on a chair in the middle of the court while the rest of the team ran.

 

"They learned that you better not be on time for anything, you better be early. I've had kids come back and tell me that I've instilled that in them."

  

The Unionville Fire

Hurlock was born in Germany, where his father was stationed in the Army. He lived there for about five years before the family moved to Unionville. It was a big family: Brian has four brothers and two sisters, and they were always playing sports.

 

Tragedy struck on August 5, 1979, when their house caught fire. Their mom was injured and badly burned after making sure everyone got out safely.

 

"At the hospital, they'd change her bandages three times a day because the burns were so bad - it was third-degree burns," says Hurlock. "All you could see was her face and maybe her fingers. It was a lot of tough trips to the hospital for us kids. Two weeks later, they called us and said my mom had passed away from a blood clot."

 

As he and his siblings often did, they found solace in sports. "Within an hour, me and my brothers were outside playing Wiffle ball. That what we did: we played sports."

 

A banner from George’s Pizza in Unionville given to Hurlock. “I just never knew I impacted so many lives.”
A banner from George’s Pizza in Unionville given to Hurlock. “I just never knew I impacted so many lives.”

Cancer

Outside of coaching, Hurlock worked at George's Pizza in Unionville for many years, starting when he graduated high school. He also ran the Hurlock Sports Camps in Farmington for 32 years and does a lot of officiating in various sports. Over Thanksgiving, 2022, he moved to South Carolina. In January 2023, after experiencing back pain, he got the cancer diagnosis. The prognosis: two to five years.

 

"It was tough," says Hurlock, who never smoked. "There were a lot of times I cried, but I've got a great family, great former players and friends that reached out."

 

He had surgery to remove a tumor in his back and went through a medieval-sounding procedure when spots were discovered on his brain.

 

"They did what's called a gamma knife, which is a metal contraption on the top of your head. I had to wear that nine hours in the hospital. They zapped all the six or seven spots with radiation."

 

Brian moved back to Connecticut, where the "Hurlock Strong" movement was waiting for him. The outpouring of support includes lots of letters and cards, as well as donations. It proved very therapeutic, helping him keep a positive attitude. His treatment these days includes a daily chemo pill, infusions to help strengthen his bones, and exercise, mostly walking. He also took up yoga, which helps a lot with his balance. His instructor is his daughter, Anneliese, who runs the Luna & Lotus wellness center in Collinsville.

 

He's decided not to ask the doctors if his prognosis has changed. "I try not to dwell on it," he says. "I'll tell people, 'Listen, you only have me for a couple more months.' Make some fun out of a bad situation."

 

Brian now lives in Canton. We met at The Blue House Bagel Co. & Cafe, where we got to know him better with these "Coffee With" questions.

 

What sports teams do you like?

I hate professional sports. Pros, I think sometimes they're just spoiled babies. I'd rather watch Geno or Danny Hurley's teams because they run team offenses.

 

Even when I had Sales playing for me, we'd play team basketball. We ran a team offense with cutting and down screens. A lot of coaches will do a pick and roll, which means there's three other kids standing around doing nothing.

 

What's the best dish at George's?

I would recommend their chicken cutlet. The lasagna is also a favorite.

 

What would you like to change about youth sports?

I wish the parents would just enjoy the game, like my mom and dad did. Not be so over-involved. The kids need to be having fun.

 

When we were little, we had the local school games but very seldom were our parents over-involved. Just go enjoy the game. Be seen but not heard.

 

As a ref, how do you handle the parents who are difficult?

With kindness and laughter at first, because that's the trait I got from my mom and dad. If it gets way out of hand, I'll go over to the head coach and say, "If you don't take care of that parent, I'm going to give you a technical." That puts the pressure on the coach to tell the parent to knock it off.

 

What about difficult coaches?

The first thing is, "Coach, what do you see out there? I didn't see that." I'll try to reason with them. I try to work with them. Sometimes when they're frustrated, they take it out on the referee.

 

What do you like to do when you're not working?

See a movie. I like it because nobody's bothering me. I just have my own time. I love movies with Steve Martin - anything that's going to make me laugh. And I'm a tearjerker. I used to take my daughter to all those cartoon movies like Snow White or Cinderella, and I'd be crying. Like my mom, I have a big heart.

 

What's a memorable trip you've taken?

Ten years ago I met my daughter in Italy and we went looking for my mom's sisters. The only thing we had was an address - it was like a Lifetime movie. We went to the address and found one of my mom's sisters. Within an hour it was all cousins of mine at my aunt's house. It was a life experience for me and my daughter to bond.

 

What would you like to be remembered for?

I want people to remember the positive impact I had on them. And that I had fun.



Hurlock with his daughter Anneliese, who runs the Luna& Lotus wellness center in Collinsville.
Hurlock with his daughter Anneliese, who runs the Luna& Lotus wellness center in Collinsville.

Hurlock doing some sound healing.
Hurlock doing some sound healing.

 

Valley Happenings

Summer Hours at Stanley-Whitman

FARMINGTON – The Stanley-Whitman House, a National Historic Landmark located in the heart of historic Farmington, has announced its summer hours of operation, in effect annually from Memorial Day through Labor Day. During this seasonal period, the museum will welcome visitors Tuesdays through Saturdays, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Group tours are available by appointment for groups of six or more. An adult must accompany children under the age of 13. For more information, call (860) 677-9222 or visit www.s-wh.org.

 

Avon Historical Society selected for fundraiser

AVON - The Avon Historical Society was selected as the July 2025 beneficiary of the program for the Big Y located at 255 West Main Street, (Route 44), Avon. The Society will receive a $1 donation every time the $2.50 reusable Community Bag is purchased at this location during July, unless otherwise directed by the customer through the Giving Tag attached to the bag.

 

Simsbury Community Band concerts

The Simsbury Community Band invites you to our summer concert series! Bring your lawn chairs for evenings of great music and community spirit. Concerts will take place on the first four Wednesdays in July at 7 p.m. in the Simsbury Farms Ice Rink (100 Old Farms Rd). Free admission and fun for the whole family.

 

Canton Main Street Farmers Market

The Canton Main Street Farmers Market in Collinsville is open every Sunday with 21 full season vendors and another 12 who schedule appearances throughout the year. The market is open from 10 am to 1 pm every Sunday through Oct. 12 in historic Collinsville. Family-friendly with stunning views of the Collins Company and the Farmington River.

 

Book Collection at the Simsbury

Public library

The Friends of the Simsbury Public Library sponsors a Book Collection at the Simsbury Public library for their Annual Used Book Sale on Oct 4 & 5, 2025.

The book collection drop off runs through Sept. 13 on Tuesdays & Fridays from 10 a.m.-12 p.m. and Saturdays from 10 a.m. to 1:30 p.m.

in Tariffville Room on the ground floor of the library.

Accepted items for the collection are books, complete games & puzzles, DVDs, music CDs, records, and recent computer software.

PLEASE DO NOT BRING: magazines, textbooks, encyclopedias, VHS tapes, or any item in poor condition.

Drop off is in the LOWER LEVEL Parking Lot for carts and volunteer assistance.

 

Avon History Museum grand opening

AVON –  The public is invited to join in the grand opening celebration of the new Avon History Museum at 8 East Main Street in the center of Avon on Friday, July 4 and Saturday, July 5, from 1:-4 pm.  The Town of Avon and Avon Historical Society collaborated on an eight-year renovation to turn this 202-year old structure, once called Schoolhouse No. 3, into a modern museum about Avon’s history.

In honor of the new museum, it will be open daily July 4 – July 13 from 1-4 p.m. Thereafter, a sign out front will announce permanent opening days.  For more information on The Avon Historical Society, visit:  www.avonhistoricalsociety.org

 

65th Anniversary Exhibition

Gallery on the Green presents the 65th Anniversary Exhibition from  Friday, July 11 through Saturday, Aug 9. The Canton Artists’ Guild began in 1960 and has been continuously operating ever since, making it the longest running of any artist guild in Connecticut. The membership, which today draws on artists from 30 surrounding towns, is presenting work in celebration of this 65th Anniversary.  The reception is Saturday, July 12 from 6-8 pm and will include refreshments. The show and reception are free. The gallery is located near the intersection of Dowd Avenue and Route 44 at 5 Canton Green Road in Canton. Hours are Friday – Sunday, 1-5 pm. The main floor gallery is handicapped accessible.

Website: http://www.galleryonthegreen.org

 

Music at Greenwood: Summer Talent Exhibition

Avon: On Saturday, July 19, at 4 p.m., St. Matthew Lutheran Church is hosting a musical talent exhibition to collect donations for the Canton Food Bank. This coffeehouse-style event will showcase the musical skills of members and friends of St. Matthew and other local churches. Snacks, coffee, and other beverages will be provided. St. Matthew is located at 224 Lovely Street, Avon. For more information about upcoming events, visit us online at https://www.stmatthewavon.org/music-at-greenwood.

 

Avon Free Public Library events

AVON –The following events are scheduled at Avon Free Public Library. The library is at Avon Library, 281 Country Club Road, Avon. All programs are in person except where noted. For more information on adult programs, contact Adult Services Reference Desk via avonref@avonctlibrary.info 860-673-9712 x 7203. Registration required where noted.

• If These Walls Could Talk: The Palace Theater Story. Tuesday, July 15 at 2 p.m. New this season, the Palace Theater takes the show on the road. As stunning as the theater is today, it has a dazzling past. Join us as we travel through the historic stages of the Palace from its inception, its heyday, its “seen better” days and its 21st century renovation.

• (Virtual Event) Relax Your Mind and Body Through Meditation. Thursday, July 17, 2025 at 7 p.m. Being relaxed can help ease stress and tension. It can also relieve anxiety, depression, and sleep problems. Join Bruce Faithwick for this informative workshop. There will even be a short meditation sitting to try this out firsthand.

• (Virtual Event) Tea Travelers through China.Wednesday, July 16 at 2 p.m. Danielle Beaudette of The Cozy Tea Cart (TCTC)) and certified Tea Specialist will explain about traveling throughout China, from the tea fields of the Hunan Province to those of Anhui. We will present tea rooms in Shanghai and Beijing as well as historical ancient sites.

• (In-Person Event) Food in Connecticut History: An Archaeological Perspective. Thursday, July 31 at 2 pm. This lecture focuses solely on the food products that were found in Connecticut archaeological sites.  Specifically, it includes discoveries that have been made regarding seasonally exploited natural resources from the pre-contact period to the historical period, allowing archaeologists to determine the time of year sites were occupied. The effects of health, domestication of animals, and interaction with the natural environment all can be analyzed based on the archaeology of food.

 

Farmington Valley Acoustic Festival

The 10th Annual Farmington Valley Acoustic Festival is returning on Saturday, Oct. 18 from 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. at Winding Trails in Farmington. The festival headliner is Della Mae, a GRAMMY-nominated, all-women string band.

The Festival also features Buffalo Rose, Cold Chocolate, and The Tenderbellies. In addition, award-winning songwriters from local and nationally-touring acts will be performing. Tickets are limited and must be purchased in advance. Tickets are $40 adults, and $10 children at https://windingtrails.org/music-festival or on Eventbrite.

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